The most precious things in speeches are pauses. You wish you could say the same for relationships.
Any relationship is like pearls on strings; just a small break in the string, not only would the pearls scatter, but no matter how hard we try, the string would never be the same. Every relation, once broken does leave a scar-how deep depends on the relationship and on the time elapsed. So probably forgiving isn’t just the end, it is a test of endurance.
You can never tell what people have inside them until you start taking it away, one hope at a time. And it can be true for both the parties- the one who has to forgive and the one who has to be forgiven. Probably the one who has to forgive is ready to forgive, but is waiting for the apology, while the one who has to be forgiven might think that the apology is implied. Obviously, both the parties are at fault at one point or the other.
It is the greater person in you that allows you to forgive. The Adult in you makes the process quicker. And the faster you forgive, the healthier your relationship might remain. And the faster you forgive, the more at peace are you. Forgive quickly, because it might make you happy.
As Elizabeth Bennet would say, “I could easily forgive his pride, if he had not mortified mine.” (Although in the end the whole story had another outcome,) wouldn’t we also react in the same way in her situation? (I know, I know, it is Mr. Darcy, after all, so maybe we would, but would we if it were someone else?)
Again, would you forgive at all, the person who shred your heart into a million pieces, forcing you to question yourself in the hardest possible way? Would you want to be the bigger person when the other person doesn’t even appreciate it? Would you forgive somebody who could just leave you in the middle of the night on a deserted road? Would you forgive someone who dodged behind you to save themselves during a shootout? Would you?
If you are willing to forgive, if you value a relationship more than you own self-esteem, forgive quickly. If you are willing to forgive, do not play games and forgive quickly. More importantly, if you are willing to forgive someone when they are right, forgive quickly.
So either forgive quickly, forget and move on, or don’t forgive at all. Do whatever you want, but do it with courage, you won’t go far too wrong. Forgive. Breathe.